The Problem with Friends and Family

Posted on January 22nd, by Albert in Change, Problems. No Comments

“The problem with friends and family is that they know us as we are. They are invested in maintaining us as we are. The last thing we want is to remain as we are. If you’re reading this quote, it’s because you sense inside you a second self, an unlived you. With some exceptions (God bless them), Friends and family are the enemy of this unmanifested you, this unborn self, this future being. Prepare yourself to make new friends. They will appear, trust me.” from “Do The Work!” By Steven Pressfield

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One of the World’s Problems

Posted on November 19th, by Albert in Problems. No Comments

You’ll get better results if you work on your own problems instead of the world’s problems and simultaneously take care of one of the world’s problems. – Albert

I’m Never Upset for the Reason I think

Posted on August 17th, by Albert in Honesty, Pain, Problems. No Comments

“I am never upset for the reason I think.” – A course in miraclesApply this statement today to every upset large and small and examine your mind a little deeper for whatever is distressing you. You’ll find that you are usually reacting on the surface to a separate underlying disturbance of your peace of mind that has no real connection to the annoying trigger.

It’s All In How You See It

Posted on September 23rd, by Albert in Accept, Choice, Effort, Flow, Problems. No Comments

“Of all the virtues we can learn no trait is more useful, more essential for survival, and more likely to improve the quality of life than the ability to transform adversity into an enjoyable challenge.”  from “Flow” by   MIHALY CSIKSZENTMIHALYI

Can I Learn Optimism?

Posted on August 30th, by Albert in Accept, Choice, Decision, Optimism, Problems, Thoughts. No Comments

“People who make permanent and universal explanations for their troubles tend to collapse under pressure, both for a long time and across situations.

Learned helplessness is the giving up reaction, the quitting response that follows from the belief that whatever you do doesn’t matter. Explanatory style is the manner in which you habitually explain to yourself why events happen. It is the great modulator of learned helplessness. An optimistic explanatory style stops helplessness, whereas a pessimistic explanatory style spreads helplessness.”  – Martin Seligman from Learned Optimism

Seligman and his colleagues conducted an experiment using dogs.

Imagine two dogs: The first dog is slightly shocked but has a lever he can push that will stop the shocks. He quickly learns to stop the shocks. He’s in good “psychological” shape. A second dog does not have a lever. He can’t stop the shocks. Rather, the shocks … Read More »