Have you noticed how trivial the Facebook posts from outside Louisiana seem right now? The local posts are so much more meaningful. People offering help of all kinds to each other, sharing their homes, launching rescue missions, adventuring to find and get things like baby formula to stranded grandchildren. Don’t you think the Cajun Navy guys are enjoying the excitement of being useful and heroic while getting to drive their boats all over? Yes of course the loss is tragic, and it’s going to be a big pain in the a– to clean it all up, our lives and our children’s lives are disrupted from their normal routine, everyone, even if your house is dry is feeling the ripple effect as it all unwinds, and yes, people will spend more money than they want to on all of this, However, what a … Read More »
Here’s the difference between pessimists and optimists when dealing with setbacks or frustrations: “pessimists automatically think ‘it’s going to last forever, undermine everything, and it’s my fault’, optimists, in contrast, interpret the setbacks as surmountable, particular to a single problem, and resulting from temporary circumstances or other people.” – Martin Seligman from “Authentic Happiness”
“The pessimist resembles a man who observes with fear and sadness that his wall calendar, from which he daily tears a sheet, grows thinner with each passing day. On the other hand, the person who attacks the problems of life actively is like a man who removes each successive leaf from his calendar and files it neatly and carefully away with its predecessors, after first having jotted down a few diary notes on the back. He can reflect with pride and joy on all the richness set down in these notes, on all the life he has already lived to the fullest. What will it matter to him if he notices that he is growing old? Has he any reason to envy the young people whom he sees, or wax nostalgic over his own lost youth? What reasons has he … Read More »
“People who make permanent and universal explanations for their troubles tend to collapse under pressure, both for a long time and across situations.
Learned helplessness is the giving up reaction, the quitting response that follows from the belief that whatever you do doesn’t matter. Explanatory style is the manner in which you habitually explain to yourself why events happen. It is the great modulator of learned helplessness. An optimistic explanatory style stops helplessness, whereas a pessimistic explanatory style spreads helplessness.” – Martin Seligman from Learned Optimism
Seligman and his colleagues conducted an experiment using dogs.
Imagine two dogs: The first dog is slightly shocked but has a lever he can push that will stop the shocks. He quickly learns to stop the shocks. He’s in good “psychological” shape. A second dog does not have a lever. He can’t stop the shocks. Rather, the shocks … Read More »