Watching my teenage daughter anxiously stress, struggle, and strive for good grades in school made me realize how early in life we are indoctrinated into the “reward culture”. We are trained from an early age to seek the finish line, the reward, the trophy. We are promised that once we achieve, arrive, and attain what we’re after, everything will be great, and then and only then will we feel fantastic and fulfilled and be able to relax, basking in our accomplishments, deeply satisfied.
But how long do we celebrate before looking ahead to the next finish line? Not long. All of the hard work, homework, and hard won grades attained in High School turn out to be just a brief hurdle, simply an obligatory stepping stone to get into a good college. The college career is a stepping stone to the … Read More »
“You want it. Aspiring. Hoping. Reaching. So you make a plan to get it. The bucket list. To-do lists. Objectives. Goals. Except that, you’re not chasing the goal, you’re chasing a feeling you hope reaching the goal will give you. We have the procedure upside down and it’s burning us out. What if we get clear first on how we want to feel, then set our intentions?” – Danielle Laporte from “The Desire Map”