“There are three kinds of business in the world: mine, yours, and God’s. Notice when you were hurt that you are mentally out of your business. If you’re not sure, stop and ask, ‘mentally, whose business am I in?’ Whose business is it if an earthquake happens? God’s business. Whose business is it if your neighbor down the street has an ugly lawn? Your neighbor’s business. Whose business is it if you are ANGRY at your neighbor down the street because he has an ugly lawn? Your business. Life is simple—it is internal.” – Byron Katie from “Loving What Is”
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“Happiness is a universal phenomenon, there is nothing special about it. Trees are happy and animals are happy and birds are happy. The whole of existence is happy, except man. Being miserable, man becomes very special, extraordinary.
Misery makes you capable of attracting people’s attention. Whenever you are miserable you are attended to, sympathized with, loved. Everybody starts taking care of you. Who wants to hurt a miserable person? Who is jealous of a miserable person? Who wants to be antagonistic to a miserable person? That would be too mean.
The miserable person is cared for, loved, attended to. There is great investment in misery. If the wife is not miserable, the husband simply tends to forget her. If she is miserable the husband cannot afford to neglect her. If the husband is miserable, the whole family, the wife, the children, are … Read More »
“Difficult and unpleasant as it may be to accept, we often feel most hostile to those who remind us of aspects of ourselves that we prefer not to see. ‘Ask someone to give a description of the personality type which he finds most despicable, most unbearable and hateful, and most impossible to get along with,’ writes Edward Whitmont, ‘and he will produce a description of his own repressed characteristics… These very qualities are so unacceptable to him precisely because they represent his own repressed side; only that which we cannot accept within ourselves do we find impossible to live with in others.’ Think for a moment of someone you actively dislike. What quality in that person do you find most objectionable? Now ask yourself, ‘How am I that?’” from “The Power of Full Engagement” by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz
Fully functioning people never complain. Acceptance means no complaining, and happiness means no complaining about things over which you can do nothing. Complaining is the refuge of those who have no self-reliance. Just as complaining to others accomplishes nothing, so permitting others to abuse you with their self-pity and misery helps no one. Asking “why are you telling me this?” of others will generally end this useless behavior and help you to recognize the folly of complaining yourself. – Wayne Dyer
Beware and avoid the 5 Poisons of Life: Complaining, Criticizing, Being Negative, Gossiping, and Excuse Making. From “Your Absolute Best Year Yet” seminar by Robin Sharma